Mark,
I have the same Harken furler/Navtec 9" stroke hydraulic cylinder as you.
I have not been able to get helpers to haul me up the mast yet so I don't have my forestay length measured for comparison. I will say that my forestay is probably factory original and that length combined with the 3" of adjustment from the furler will easily allow rake adjustment from 0-6", probably more like 8" max. The 49' 10.8" nominal FS length value is what I get also. Your current length should allow plenty of rake adjustment from vertical.
I was getting the same +/- 4" of stroke at 3000 psi on my cylinder when I started the older thread in the link. You can pump it up to 4000 psi without issues, it just gets harder to pump and by 4000 psi you get no reaction. Factory relief setting is 4000 psi.
After experimenting this week with really loose HS/BS tension (12" of HS swing) and my rebuilt hyd cylinder, I got 7.5" of stroke at 4000 psi but the same mast bend profile seen in the pictures in post #20 of the old thread. That was with the rig set as tight as I could get it! This tells me two things. The rebuilt hyd cylinder is working fine, but it is only able to supply so much load. Since most of the bend is above the lower spreaders and not down low, this means I am NOT inducing enough pre-bend in my lower mast section with the butt all the way aft and the position at the partners all the way forward. This could be particular to my boat: the mast base is more forward on the keel, the partner hole in the deck is slightly more aft, or both. But without starting the bend down low with the butt aft/partners fwd position of the mast, the hydaulic backstay just pulls the tip of the mast aft putting most of the bend into the top half of the mast. The cylinder can only pull so hard until it equals the load of the stiffness of the mast. I don't know if there's anything else I can do with my mast/step/partner geometry. I still have my babystay hardware, so I may experiment with a removeable babystay to get lower bend when it's windy.
The good news is the BS cylinder will take up all the slack from a loose setting to a pretty tight higher wind setting. For your situation, I would set up the rig rake and tension so that it was good at full hyd BS pressure at your typical max wind. Then with minimum BS pressure, you will get more HS sag, less mast bend and more powerful sail shape. I power up my #3 this way during the spring and fall to avoid using a #2 that I don't have and to avoid underway changes to my #1 which is a huge PITA.
Mark