Trailer
The best advice (other than trying to get someone at Yacht Transport, Joule , or one of the other trucking companies who do this for a living to tell you how they do it), is that the supports go under the the bulkheads-the bow is supported at the first structural member aft of the bow that is tied to the TAFG. On the sides, again, the supports must go exactly where those bulkheads are, and the keel is supported along the length of the bottom of the keel.
You might also check with J boats, or the J owners website, since big boats like the J 105, etc. are trailered alot and someone there might have more specific info on the tongue weight question.
Of course, one or more of our members may have more to say, too.
Sorry I can't say more without totally guessing.
Good luck!
S